"How I Recovered From Anxiety and Panic After Ten Years of Suffering" by Paul David

Firstly I would like to introduce myself. My nam e is Paul David and I suffered from every
form of anxiety and panic for 10 years. My recovery came from a meeting with someone who
had a full understanding of this condition, in fact he taught me more in one hour than
anyone else was able to teach me in 10 years.   With this persons help I was able to recover within a few months.

My recovery came because I was given a full understanding of my condition. This is the
only way to recover in my opinion. When you know why you feel like you do this takes the
whole fear out of your symptoms, it stops you going round in circles everyday trying to
find answers to why you feel like you do. It gives your body the freedom to recover. Just
like a broken leg or a cut your body is wanting and waiting to recover.

After my recovery I then went on to study the whole panic and anxiety subject in full, in
this time I not only realised how much rubbish was spoken on the subject, I was also
shocked to find out how many people actually suffered, I knew I was not alone but I could
not believe how little information there is out there for a condition for which millions
around the world suffer from.

This is why I decided to dedicate my life to helping others, over the years I have been
asked many questions from people who suffer and below I list the most common ones.

Q.1 I feel so strange and out of touch with the world around me. Am I going mad?

No, you are definitely not. You may feel as if you are, but this is just another offshoot
of anxiety.   Anxiety is not a mental illness. These feelings cannot harm you and there is nothing to  worry about.

This feeling of strangeness has a totally logical explanation. It comes from the constant
worrying about how you feel as you search your mind for answers to your condition. Your
mind has become tired and less resilient through watching yourself and worrying about
your symptoms, day in, day out. It has been bombarded with worrying thoughts and becomes
fatigued. Just as our limbs can tire, so can our mind. It craves a rest from all this
introspection of oneself.

In fact these feelings of unreality are your body's way of protecting you from the
onslaught of worrying thoughts. Your mind has a safety mechanism that protects against
all this, causing us to feel strange and not with it. It is crying out to be left alone
and just like a broken arm will heal itself so will your body, you just have to step out
of the way and let it.

The main thing is not to dwell on how you feel. These feelings are temporary. Constantly
worrying about ourselves and how we feel is the very thing that keeps this feeling alive
and when we learn how to stop the habit, it will disappear. Once we are able to change
the pattern of our worrying thoughts, we can reverse these feelings of strangeness. You
are bound to worry if you don't know why you feel like you do. That is why again
'understanding' is the key.

This is one of the questions I have been asked more than any other. I go into more detail
in my book as I know that it is a symptom that needs special attention.

I found this feeling of detachment very hard to accept and understand myself, but when it
was explained to me in full, I was able to rid myself of this disturbing symptom.

Q.2 Why do I feel better in certain situations and not in others?

This is a very common one and it all comes down to how you think in other situations.
For example, you may feel better in the safety of your own home rather than at a family
gathering. There is no difference in both of these situations, the only difference is in
the way you think. You are the same person and it is not the situation that makes you
feel worse it is your thought pattern.

You may spend the day worrying about going to a particular function, setting your body up
to be anxious on arrival and then blame it on the situation you are in rather than the
thought pattern you have created during the day while at home. You may get there and then
also worry about making a fool of yourself, spending the whole time tensing against how
you feel and creating more anxiety. Do you see how we do this to ourselves? It is not the
situation, but our perception of the situation that causes us to feel worse in certain
situations. You are merely doing it to yourself with your thoughts.

You must just accept how you feel wherever you are and in whatever situation you find
yourself deal with yourself and not the place. Sometimes a place may hold certain
memories of failure, which makes us feel anxious, but this soon passes when we learn to
accept how

If you truly accept how you feel in every situation and stop all the "What if's" and
other negative thoughts that just increase anxiety, you will find that although you may
feel uncomfortable at times, nothing bad is going to happen to you, and in time your
reactions lessen until you feel more able to cope, day by day. Anxiety loves avoidance,
so take it's power away and move forward and embrace these feelings of fear, even if
you're in a situation where you feel you have failed in the past.

Avoiding symptoms just does not work, as you must realise by now. I was taught to let all
feelings be there, not to avoid them but to go through them. This worked for me, I had
faced the demons head on and realised this was the only way to stop fearing them. I
ignored my body's instinct to avoid and started to embrace how I felt, I moved towards
the feelings of fear. Eventually, I started to understand my condition so much more. I
went from not been able to even mention or hear the word anxiety, to barely giving it a
second thought.

I mention the word 'understanding' again, because this is the key to recovery. How can
you not fear something you don't understand! How can you accept something that still
scares you?

Q.3 Will these feelings ever go away?

Yes, they will, once you understand why you feel like you do. You can unmask the fears
you hold about anxiety. There are so many myths about anxiety that it worries me just how
many people are mis-informed and truly believe they will never get better, and that they
will just have to live with this condition. Too many people spend years like I did,
searching for that elusive miracle cure that just does not exist.

Understanding anxiety takes away so much fear out of how we feel. Every stage and symptom
has a logical explanation that can be explained. With less fear and more understanding,
we also calm the constant worrying it is the lack of information on the subject that
keeps the worry cycle going. Constant worrying that we will never get better also adds to
the belief that we will just have to live with it.

Once we start to understand anxiety and use the tools we have learnt to cope with how we
feel, the change can be dramatic. In my recovery, I found that the more knowledge I had
and the more I understood my condition the easier it was to accept how I felt. I started
to lose fear of my symptoms and how I felt. Eventually they began to hold less power over
me and I started to pay them less respect.

It is your desperation to rid yourself of how you feel that keeps your anxiety alive. The
stress you put on yourself day in day out, the constant worrying and thinking about your
condition, puts a tremendous pressure on your body. Is it any wonder you stay anxious?
It's time to stop beating yourself up about how you feel and give your body the rest it
craves.

Knowledge is power. The less you fear your symptoms, the less they mean. This also stops
the worry cycle you may find yourself in, which is the very thing that keeps anxiety
going. You are bound to worry if you don't know what is wrong with you, that is why you
need an explanation to help break this cycle.

Q.4 Why do I find it so hard in social situations? I find it so hard to communicate with
people.

How can we expect to feel part of this world when all we do is worry about ourselves. Is
it any wonder we find it difficult to follow a conversation when all we are concerned
about is ourselves and how we feel. It is like being two separate people, one trying to
hold a conversation, the other watching our body's reaction. Is it any wonder we struggle
to fit in to the world around us?

Once we find the courage to accept how we feel, even embrace these feelings, we find it
easier to follow what the other person is saying. We become less concerned about how we
feel which gives us more time to be interested in the situation we are in and become more
involved in the present.

Q.5 Why do I seem to have so many bad thoughts running around all day?

The reason you seem to have your attention on yourself all day and it feels like there
are hundreds of thoughts running through your mind is because of all your confusion about
how you feel. You go round in your mind all day long, looking for answers, trying to find
a way out of this hell. Some people may even stay up all night reflecting on the whole
day, trying to figure it all out. Mostly these are negative or worrying thoughts and
that's why they seem to come automatically and with so much force. When you are in an
anxious state, emotions seem to be ten-fold. Everything magnifies, a little problem
becomes massive, and something that you could dismiss when you were healthy, sticks
around all day.

Eventually thinking just becomes automatic it becomes a habit. All day, every day, these
thoughts seem to come before you even think them. Looking at it from another angle, when
people meditate, they stop thinking for hours on end until it becomes a habit and they
can go all day without a worrying thought. That is why they feel so refreshed.

Not you, your thoughts just carry on and on and when your mind is tired, like it is now,
it grasps hold of every thought, pulls them in and they seem to stick.

Don't worry that thoughts come so often and seem so bad. These thoughts are not real,
they are just exaggerated thoughts due to your overactive, fatigued mind. They hold no
danger to you at all they are just THOUGHTS and nothing else.
Don?t ever think, "I must not think that". Let all thoughts come, do not run away from
any of them. See them for what they are - thoughts - exaggerated because of the way you
feel. They can do you no harm and they mean nothing. They won?t be around when you
recover, so pay them no respect.

Why not try following a negative/scary thought through and ask yourself, "What?s the
worst thing that could happen?" Ask yourself, "Is it really going to happen? Is this
thought rational in any way?" If you do this, you may find an answer to a thought you
have been so frightened of. So the next time you can see them for what they are and let
them go, and deep down inside of you there is a place where you can see thoughts for what
they are, you will realize they just come from habit and are just not important.

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